Peanut Update

So…  When we discussed our issues with Peanut with a few people, just conversationally, but one happened to be a speech therapist and one is a member of our school board of ed and who has a son with some special needs, they both expressed some concern and thought it would hurt to have Peanut assessed by the school system.  And that process took a little time, but we finally got a written report that seemed okay.  A little delayed here and there, but overall okay.

The actual meeting to discover the assessment results was on Tuesday and they recommend Peanut goes through their preschool program with some services included, including speech therapy, occupational therapy and behavioral modification.

So the preschool program is from 8:45 – 11:15. Awkward time much? Apart from Peanut having to go to a whole new place with new set of teachers/admins/classmates/routines, there’s the whole how do I get her there by 8:45 AM, to the afternoon pre-k program at her daycare issue.  If I change my work ours to 9:30 – 5:30, how do I pick up both my kids and get home probably somewhere close to 7 and get through night time routine? How on earth do I pick both of them up by 6:30 if I happen to run into bad traffic?  OMG… nightmare. And 2.5 weeks to figure out what to do because school starts September 4th.

We need several things to line up for all of this to work, including busing, sister-in-law changing her work schedule, boss being flexible about my work schedule, friends and other family members being kind enough to be on alert to take Soso home if I can’t make it to her after-care by 6:30, etc and I have to wonder if this will all be worth it. Does Peanut really need this?  Does she need to have her entire routine turned upside down? She doesn’t adjust to changes and new setting very well.

Anyway, we’re trying to make it work for now since it’s easier to leave the system then to get into it mid-year.  Worst case scenario, it doesn’t work out, perhaps we realize she’s okay without the added services and she just does the daycare pre-k full-time as she was scheduled to do until Tuesday.  Cross your fingers and pray for us.

Reunion with BFF and Family

I have a BFF from college and the last time I saw her was at my wedding. 14 years ago.  We were both young, in our 20’s, childless and relatively carefree.  Then all these major life changes started happening and…

Still not seeing one’s BFF for 14 years sounds kind of sad and pathetic, doesn’t it?  There were legitimate reasons… she’s a doctor and she was in throes of residency.  Then she had a baby. I had a baby. She had another baby.  There were job changes and house moves. There was a this huge span of time when I was trying to have a second baby.  She had a third baby.  I finally got my Peanut.  There were school schedules and different vacations times.

Years just kept piling on and one day I realize that I really, really, really missed her and I was still having a hard time reconciling my last image of her, in her 20’s without any children, let alone three, without gray hair or wrinkles or other changes that comes with having kids and you know being 40 versus 20-something and I’m pretty sure she felt the same and we decided we needed to meet.

And it happened.


Yeah we’re older and we’re moms and we haven’t seen each other in 14 years, but it was like we had seen each other over the years.


May be because we talk so often and so much about our respective lives. I thought it would be awkward or weird and it wasn’t. The kids had about 15 minutes of awkwardness and then…


Our girls became such buddies.




Peanut loved having older “brothers” to play with, who also took such good care of her.



Peanut looooved Miss “A”.


I’m in this one but Peanut went down a few times with just Miss “A”.


I didn’t take nearly enough photos, but there were many instances where the kids played together as if they had known each other their whole lives. It was so sweet and a little bittersweet to watch since we don’t know when we will all see each other again.

But I’m hopeful that it won’t be 14 years next time.