Parenting Soso vs. Peanut

Imagine parenting over the years as a road… this is the difference between Soso and Peanut.


What’s prompted my attempt at drawing? Because mere words are not enough. There’s always something with Peanut… Most of it is not her fault and beyond her control, but that doesn’t alleviate the frustration.

The latest drama is bed wetting… going on 2 weeks now. We’ve done everything we’re supposed to do, including limit water close to bed time, pottying her before, and we’ve even resorted to waking her up in the middle of the night to potty… and of course, she still wets the bed, but now at 5 AM. I just don’t understand what’s going on with her body that all of sudden she’s lacking any control over her bladder in the night. Today was the last straw. She had peed twice before bed, peed at 2:30AM and she still had an accident at 5 AM. Tonight she’s going back to diapers. We just cannot continue to deal with all the laundry, the changing of clothes, washing, the crying and the sleep deprivation.

Sad April Fool’s Day

Today’s the 3 year anniversary of my mom passing.  It felt like a bad joke then and it still feels a little like a bad joke now.  She didn’t get to celebrate her 75th birthday or see me turn 40 or Soso turn 10. She never met Peanut.  There are so many things we didn’t get a chance to do.  I miss her so much.

I love you Mom.  I miss you.  You would have gotten a kick out of Peanut who’s the opposite end of the spectrum in personality to Soso.  You would have been proud of the young lady Soso is becoming.  I hope you’re up there, putting in a good word for us, especially for your two granddaughters.

Peanut Update

I figured it’s about time for another update on my ‘Nut.

A friend of mine posted a drawing where “your plan” depicted as this straight smooth road to the finish line and the universe’s plan for you as a road filled with obstacles and bad weather.

My life’s that universe’s road with even MORE obstacles with Peanut in tow.  Case in point.


I got a phone call last Thursday from daycare. This is what the assistant director of the daycare described as a small scratch on her face.


Small scratch my a**. This photo was taken the day after. When I picked her up, that injured area was bright red. I was too shocked to properly tell her off that day, probably a good thing. I was much calmer when I talked to the director about how “small scratch” was not nearly descriptive enough to convey the type of injury Peanut had.


She was happy to stay home with Mommy though on Friday. And for anyone concerned, it is healing very nicely after all the care I put into it. It’s debatable whether Vitamin E cream helps, but I tell you it’s healing much faster and more cleanly than I anticipated.

Apart from the injury, the latest update on Peanut is that she’s going through another bout of late-night waking up/crying thing. Just when I think I can sleep without being on alert… It actually started with a week of having accidents in middle of the night to waking up to pee to now she’s waking up multiple times to either pee or to tell us she misses us.

This too shall pass? Yeah, yeah, I know.

Another update, which I was in a bit of denial, is that she’s a little behind with her letters and reading.  I wasn’t too worried until I read Soso’s 4th birthday letter the other day. I wrote that she was already reading a few simple words and able to write her name. Peanut can read 5 or 6 letters. I wonder if this is part of being the second kid since we don’t get pay as much one-on-one attention or it’s just that she’s a different kid. Oh well…